“The moment we stop learning is the moment we start failing.”

            When I saw the opening for a trainer in VCC-Link, I was not really looking for a job.  As a mother of two, I was happy then working from home for a year as an English tutor.  But something sparked in me that day and I just could not set aside that sort of “calling” I felt when I saw the posting.  It had always been my dream to train; it was the same reason I entered the call center industry way back in my College days in the first place.  I remember looking at my past trainers in the call center thinking, I can do that; someday I will do that.  And so, that posting made me feel that maybe, after a lot of reroutes, that was it. That was the chance.

            To be honest, I really thought my chances were slim.  I really thought, in my own assessment, I kicked ass (sorry for the expression) during my interview, but Sir Paolo did not seem convinced.  He had a lot of rebuttals, and no matter how hard I tried to rebut his rebuttals, his face still did not look pleased.  I remember him saying, “If we call you, then good. If not, we found someone else.” I told my husband then, well at least I tried. But I had not even left Cityland then when Ms. Marianne called and told me that I had to do a demo class.  And so after several more processes, the mother/tutor became a trainer. 

            Training was everything I hoped it would be and more.  I was in my element.  I felt alive. It was the opportunity to meet a lot of people from very different walks of life; to know their stories, their experiences, their goals and dreams and seeing them slowly reach their dreams.  It was seeing the changes in them, and for some, the complete metamorphosis, from a dreamer to a go-getter.  It was far more rewarding than I have ever hoped for; the endless gratitude, the appreciation, the tokens of thanks, the new friendships, the privilege of having a hand in changing someone’s life.  I got all these from being an in-house trainer in Bayan Academy for VCC-Link.

            During my last class, I had my trainees write a paragraph on why they chose to stay in training.  It was all the same great reasons that made me strive to work hard for seven months, only that time it was different because it was going to be the last time that I can get to do that, the last group I was going to watch achieve their dreams.  That was enough to make me a bit emotional. Even yesterday, towards the end of the day, fixing my things, it made me emotional because I was not just leaving a job, I realized I was closing a chapter of my life that meant so much to me. 

            So I guess, my greatest learning from being an in-house trainer is this: it is not just a job that you do to earn a living, it is in fact, sharing what you know and then influencing others to get to a goal, or to improve and enhance themselves.  The rewards that I will bring with me as I leave is not the material sort, not the self-serving benefits of finding better careers or opportunities.  It is the sort that will stay with me long after everything else is gone, which is the privilege to have influenced others even in the simplest of ways. My Facebook page has been brimming with thanks lately, whether it be through a public greeting or a private message, from trainees past who learned about me leaving. Some of them went out of their way to visit (actually, they often do). These are things that I definitely did not expect, but because of these, I am leaving with joy that I succeeded in aspects that truly matter to me. 

            Each trainee I have met enriched me in different ways.  Whether they be young or old, I learned from each and everyone of them because they all have their experiences, they all have their strengths to share.

            That brings me to another great learning which is RESPECT; respect for anyone no matter the age, educational attainment, social status, or any other demographical make up there is. Each one of them deserved my respect because they would always have something that they are better at than me.  A way to practice this is through listening; I have to make it a point to listen to everyone when there is something they want to say.

            Also another learning that I want to impart is this and this is important: We should not count what we have already done and then expect returns equivalent to what we have counted.  Often, this rouses issues because people would often think, I deserve this, I don’t deserve that. I have observed this a lot from different people, not just in this company.  This often leads to thinking that they deserve more but they are not getting it so they would NOT DO more.  This is disastrous because it veers us away from doing what really matters, and that is to deliver excellent performance each and every single time, not because you will be paid or rewarded for it, but because it is your job and you’re proud of it.  Doing a great job all the time not for anything else but because it is your job to perform. 

            And so I say goodbye to training. Though sad to leave, I feel like I have my own small personal wins as well.  I am happy to have been able to contribute in my own simple ways.

Technology, apps and motherhood

Been having lots of fun with apps lately. If that sounds lowlife to you, well, I’d have to remind you that I’m a stay at home mom and this, already is fun for me.

So here are my kids via my brother’s Samsung Galaxy Note II S-Paint.



*pics were made via S-paint, screencaps were not.
I’m having the most fun here within the walls of my house!

App Love – Fantasy for Camera 360

I spent a good deal of my time today taking pictures with my camera phone.  It’s because of this app I downloaded from Google Play, Fantasy for Camera 360.  To use it, you need to have the Camera 360 app installed in your phone first.  Although Camera 360 in itself is already nice (not great but nice), this Fantasy app really gave me a great time today.  It was actually inspired by the works of Ben Heine, ‘Pencil vs. Camera.’   There were only a few templates available and I know pretty soon, I’ll tire of it.  But for now, I still haven’t had my fill of it. Besides, I will be going out of town with my friends soon and I’m excited to use this to take pics.

So far though, the pictures I took were just for testing purposes so nothing special.  But I hope I could get to try it outside soon (when I do get to go outside.)





What other apps can you recommend?

this is amazing.


It’s not unusual to walk into a bathroom stall and see a mix of short notes, graffiti and stories. But it is unusual for someone to take the time to craft a thoughtful response. That’s just what one Reddit user saw when she entered the girls’ bathroom at her university.

“In a girls’ bathroom stall at my university, girls have written about some of their most horrifying life experiences,” wrote Reddit user chellylauren on January 14th. This week, someone replied.”

She posted a photograph of the bathroom stall note on imgur. Read it and prepare to be inspired. (Scroll down for the full text of the note, formatted.)






Read More:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/15/girls-bathroom-stall-note-university_n_2482082.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women



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Prepare for the future or live each day as it is?

So this is my first post in several months.  I haven’t been able to visit my own blog lately.  My last post was in April of 2012, summer time here in the Philippines.  I guess I got caught up in summer activities for the kids, looking for a suitable preschool for my son (the school year here starts in June) and teaching English, I guess. I felt I needed to reserve all my mind energy for my students and be able to focus on their progress.  Lately though I started to miss writing here and being able to just express my thoughts, be it mommy-related or not.


My 5:40am student has been often absent from class recently.  But I can’t blame her.  She is 9 years old, currently on her winter vacation but she needs to get up at 6:40am (Korea time) for her Skype English class.  I mean, if I were here, i’d hate it. C’mon, I’m 9.  I totally understand that her parents want her to be competent especially among her peers who are all studying English too. But still, sometimes, I feel sympathetic when she sounds so sleepy in class.  And to think it is so cold in Korea right now, I’d almost want to tell her to go back to bed.

I am impressed with her, though, because even when sleepy, she still manages to perform well during class.  I think Korean kids nowadays are used to all these activities starting from a young age.  It is pretty common to go to other learning institutes or tutorial centers after school hours and even during vacation.

Sometimes I think, we can learn from Korean society in this light.  In Korea nowadays, as early as middle school, parents are set for when their children would need to enter the University and are all making sure that their kids would have grades good enough to enter a reputable high school and eventually, the best universities.

Here, when a high school student on his/her first year would talk about College and the choices for a major, most people would say, you still have several years to think about that, don’t sweat it out just yet. Here, you just need to think to really hard about College when you’re already in senior year and for some even, after they have graduated from high school.

I am not actually saying that one is better than the other but I just want to say that there are lessons that can be learned from both; don’t you think?

The Versatile Blogger Award

The Versatile Blogger



I haven’t been able to attend to my blog for several months (guilty, guilty) and I don’t really have an excuse but that I’ve been truly busy with mothering and teaching English (from home).  But I am very happy that it’s not all crickets in my blog as I have received a nomination for The Versatile Blogger award and I have Pete Denton to thank for that.

Yes, this is my first nomination for a blogging award (yeah, as if I’ve had nominations for other kinds of awards before); and even though this is several months late, I still wanted to participate for the goodwill that this nominations stand for.

So here are the rules:

1. To thank the person who nominated you and link back to their blog in your post (of course we don’t need a rule to do that, don’t we?)

2. Nominate 15 other bloggers

3. Contact them to let them know about the nomination

4. And lastly, share 7 things about yourself.

I thought sharing 7 things about me would be a piece of cake but it’s not as easy as I thought but here they are:

1.) We currently don’t have TV at home. At first it was because ours broke down months ago and hubby and I never got to having it fixed or thinking about buying a new one but later it became a matter of convenience.  Being without it is so liberating that we are able to do a whole lot more.

2.) I, until now, don’t have a smartphone (it’s 2013).

3.) I haven’t been able to read, I mean really finish books, for aaaages but since a few months ago, I’ve been reading and have finished a few books (and reading one now too) and it just makes me feel so alive.

4.) I am so into Supernatural; Dean and Sam Winchester; I don’t think I need to explain why.

5.) I also am a fan of Walking Dead, Homeland, Game of Thrones and White Collar (by fan, I mean these are the shows that I get to watch regularly– although they are all currently in season break)

6.) I like Korean boy band/group BigBang.

7.) I certainly do have the tendency to be obsessive-compulsive at times and it certainly makes tasks longer and sleep shorter.

Here are my nominations:











–I know, I know, these are just 10 blogs but this is all the time I have for now ( and I still need to contact them all! 🙂 )

So thanks everyone! And thanks again Pete!


ladyromp could not have chosen a better piece.


A Mother has so many things to do,
From washing, ironing, cleaning to tying a shoe.
She scrubs, she mends, she cooks and sews,
She bathes the children and washes their clothes.
When they forget to wash their faces clean,
And their clothes are the muddiest you’ve ever seen,
Who repairs the clothes and scrubs them like new?
Of course, that is what a Mother will do.

Who becomes the doctor or the nurse when they are ill,
Applying a bandage or giving them a pill?
Who becomes a teacher when a child has homework?
She must never her duty shirk.
Who becomes a detective to find a toy or a book?
For missing things she must look and look?
Who becomes a listner to every heartache,
To every accompolishment that a child makes?
Who scolds their children when they are naughty,
Or remind them of God when they are…

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i’m not a washer, i’m a kid!

Me: you should wash your own plate.

washing dishes

from gomommygo.com

JBboy: why?

Me: ’cause you’re taking too long to eat and finish your food

JBboy: i’m not a washer, i’m a kid! somebody should take care of me, mom and dad!

Me: ……..

— later in the day, i recount the story to JBdad.

JBboy: diba? diba? (isn’t it)

Me: ………

??!??!!-rite of passage? taboo?

i was supposed to write a new post when i came across this page No Circ is WholeSon! from the blog Our Homeschool Journey.

now i’m not sure if i’m just stupid or if i have just unintentionally buried the knowledge in the depths of my mind about routine circumcision of baby boys. i mean, i was (for a lack of a better word) dumbfounded. i am in a state  of mind right now that i am still grasping at this concept that i am still not able yet to create or think about my own opinion about this issue.

taken from charmed.wikia.com

not that circumcision is something new to me; it is the exact opposite. i know it as tuli or pagpapatuli. it is actually a “rite of passage” for adolescent boys in our country. i have read that 93% of our males are circumcised. at least every man i know is circumcised; and every man that the men i know know is also circumcised. it’s just that it is done here when the boy is at an age when he can choose to do it or not (although they all choose to do it eventually, because, yup, everyone does it). a lot of times, it would be the boy who would tell his parents that he’s ready (maybe because he hears that his friends are all doing it already). and of course, there are all those local jokes about those that are past “the age” and have still not done it; it’s a guy thing here (so i’m not really one to talk about it and i never really planned to talk about it but here i am). i don’t have actual basis on what i’m about to say and in no way am i sure about this but i don’t think that a parent (especially a dad) would actually force his son to go through with it if he does not want to (or at least if he’s not yet ready). but it is not a without a lack of machismo commentaries.

(wow, this post is getting long for something i didn’t plan on writing about)

although i am not ready to make opinions yet about this matter, i guess i can speak for how i plan to go about it. i’m not saying that this is certainly what will happen because i have not yet discussed this with my husband (hello, our son is 3). i think though, that we would leave it to my son’s choice. (alright, in the spirit of not assuming, i would change “we” to “i”) i think that i would leave it to my son’s choice. i never really thought about this until now but this is what i feel that i want to do. of course, i will be sure to explain to him how our culture sees it and on the other side, what it’s really about (and not about) so he will be ready to make his own judgment and not just be influenced by tradition. if the only contest to go for it is the hygiene reason, then i guess there are other ways he can do aside from having a part of his body cut off. but whatever he decides to do, i would want to make him feel that this is his choice for it is his body, something not mine or his father to impose upon.

dad and son

related to this is the fact that we did not decide to have my daughter’s ears pierced when she was born. in a country where almost all baby girls have their ears pierced before being released from the hospital, it had been kind of weird for some (or most) of my relatives to see my very pretty daughter without earrings until now. my mother cannot keep her mouth shut about this, she would always pressure me to have JBgirl’s ears pierced as if not doing it is just plain neglect of a basic motherhood duty. but honestly, i just don’t see the need for my 2-year old girl to have earrings. she is beautiful (not only because toddlers are beautiful but because she really is) and she does not need any piece of jewelry for that.